Bitch Has Been Downgraded to Tropical Storm

Finally feeling more normal today and actually got to go work out - Yeah!!!  Actually worked up a good sweat.


Feeling pretty mellow today and don't have a lot to say.  Just wanted to establish a routine of writing something every day. 


Ex called today and wanted to know if he could move the stuff out to the garage, because friend couldn't help him this weekend - but he could help him this week.  I very nicely told him that no, didn't want it in the garage - as I was picturing an entire garage full of furniture gathering dust, pollen, bugs and possums for the next four months!  Told him it needed to be out by the weekend and they could certainly come during the WEEK - what a crazy idea - if he couldn't come on the weekend.  So I'm keeping my fingers crossed that it will actually happen without my head popping off.  But just for the record, friend called him and talked to him about what to do AFTER I talked to friend!  So ex did not come up with this on his own, but did come up with the stupid furniture in the garage solution!


I caught up on several episodes of shows I'd recorded and one was "Lie To Me".  There was an episode about a guy who was hired by a lawyer on behalf of ex-husband's to marry newly divorced woman.  He'd become whatever the women wanted, marry them, stay married six months and then divorce them and move on to the next wife.  (The purpose being to stop alimony payments - the bad guy would then get paid 1/2 the alimony the husband would have paid for a year)  But the point of this is - he said he'd get these woman right after they were divorced and at their most vulnerable, wondering if they'd be alone the rest of their lives.  I started laughing!!  Yup - another cliche' that I'm fulfilling!  But it made me feel a little better that I have been thinking like that and that it is normal.  And I guess that's the good thing about ex being broke - don't have to worry about some shyster making me love him only to hurt me later!

I Feel the Bitch Coming On

Felt pretty good this morning but as the afternoon wore on - the coughing started again!  UGH - I'm so sick of being sick!


To continue a little on yesterday's theme - I am about ready to go into bitch mode on the ex!  He has left a lot of furniture here that HE wanted and we agreed he would take.  He's been gone since November 12th - the shit's still here.  I've been nothing but nice about it - no hurry, after the holidays would be good, after you get a place is fine... - and as usual when I'm nice and let him take his time doing something - it doesn't get done.  I finally had to keep after him to call our mutual freind that we've known for 20 years and that HE hadn't called in the 3 months since he'd left - about helping him get the stuff and borrowing his truck.  But by the time ex called him - the friend had several weeks in a row that he had other obligations.  Then the friend has been sick the last 2 weeks.


So why am I finally getting pissed about it?  As I said yesterday, daughter's future in-laws are coming next week and they're bringing an old sectional for their son.  Son's apartment isn't big enough for an entire sectional, so they're going to put part of it here until they get married and move into a bigger place.  And it's supposed to go in the den - where ex's Lazy Boy sofa and chair have been sitting for 4 months now.  I need it out of here so I can clean what I'm sure is a mess underneath it in time for future in-laws to bring the other sofa.


Daughter has told him that it's got to be out by April 1.  Let's have a show of hands on how many people believe that ex will take the initiave to either get someone else to help him or actually spend a dime and rent a U-Haul?  Anyone? Anyone? Bueller?


And it's really working me up because this is SO typical of him.  Nothing ever got done when I was nice.  I can't tell you how many times he'd get mad at me because I would finally blow my top over something - and it would be something minor - but it was after I'd asked nicely for a week.  The only thing that would get him off his lazy butt was for me to be a bitch about it - and then he'd talk about what a bitch I was.  I can't tell you how many conversations we'd have about ways to communicate that would make things better.  "Steps" as it were for me to take and ways for me to ask him to do something.  If I would just ask nicely, ask ahead of time, write it down, make a list.... then he would certainly do the things he needed to do without me bitching.  It was my bitching that made him procrastinate.  I would follow the steps, ask nicely, ask a week ahead of time, write it down, post a list and guess what?????  You got it - not done.  But somehow it was always MY fault that HE didn't do anything around the damn house.


So I've been very understanding and patient for four months.  FOUR MONTHS that he's left major pieces of furniture here.  Four months that he has basically been living in a trailor with a bed, a desk that was left in the trailer and a TV.  No sofa, no chairs, no end tables, no chest of drawers.  He specifically called and asked for the grill after the divorce papers were signed and I said sure.  The damn grill is sitting out on the deck along with the OLD grill that he never hauled off.


So I'm telling the world now - if that shit is sitting here on Friday when I come home from work - THE BITCH IS BACK.